The blog is going on a teeny little hiatus while we make final arrangements on some fantastic new things in Organizing with a Side of Fabulous HQ.
All will be revealed September 1st.
This week’s recipe isn’t so much of a recipe as much as it’s an assembling. And, while rather common ingredients, sometimes we just forget that it’s an option available to us.
So consider this your reminder.
This works for pretty much any meal you want it to as well as brunch.
I love versatile food.
What’s your favorite simple combo of foods that you love but often forget about.
First determine this:
How much space do you want to give to your adult children’s things?
Some people want everything out. Some people don’t mind a few things tucked away in an unused closet. Others leave the room exactly as it was when the children lived there. How much space you want to dedicate is completely your call.
Once you’ve determined how much space you’ll allow, you have a couple of options. Some parents will gather the things and send them off to the child. Others will have the child come over and deal with it themselves. Again, this is your call and depends upon how quickly you want/need to free up that space. If you’re going to gather their things, sort them according to each child. That will make it quicker and easier on both of you. Plus, you get to have some fun with the nostalgia too!
Pro tip: for either option you choose, give them a deadline on when to get it out of the house or else it’s all going away. You may find that your children don’t want much, if any, of their old things.
Pro tip #2: do you find yourself saying, “but they live in a small home.” This could be an excuse. Have you talked to them about it? I find that many of my clients who say this haven’t spoken to their children about it. So no matter what size home your child lives in, at least talk to them about it. Some may ask that you hold on to some things for a little while longer until they have the space. Many may wonder why you hung on so long to begin with!
I’ve worked with many people who didn’t like the amount of space their adult children’s things were taking up, but also didn’t want to force the things on their children. I’ve also worked with the adult children who suddenly get a box of their childhood belongings and don’t want any of it. No matter what, to clear the space you’re going to have to face the conversation. And it’s OK. It can be really fun to go through the old things, take a moment, then let it all go to create space for the future! So determine how much space you’ll allow to children’s nostalgia. Ask the kids if they want any of their old stuff. If they don’t, toss/donate/sell. If so, give them a deadline on when to get it.
Then make it happen!
Have a burning question of your own? Email it to firstname.lastname@example.org to be answered in a future post.
I’ve said this many times before but it’s always good to have a reminder.
As things change, your organizing systems need to change with them.
If not, they’ll not function as well as they could or even just flat fall apart. When you realize that it’s not working anymore, sometimes it’s best to blow it all up and start fresh.
Figuratively, of course.
I did that for myself this past weekend.
Once you’re organized, you’ll find yourself making tweaks here and there. That’s good. That’s what you’re supposed to do. However, when things change quickly, the small tweaks might not work anymore.
For me, I’ve been getting new ideas fast and furious for the past few months now. Really, I’ve been on a major creativity upswing this entire year. However, being a for the most part one-woman-show, that means that a lot of things have to sit in a holding pattern until I can take action.
At the beginning of the year I did a productivity series and in it I mentioned I used TickTick. I still do and love it. However, a few months ago it wasn’t working as well as it once did. It didn’t suck…but it was less than fabulous. I’d heard great things about Trello and after thinking about how I wanted it to function for me, got it and started transferring things over.
Let me tell you – this is a TEDIOUS process. I’d MUCH rather be writing or tackling the to-do list or up to my eyeballs in other people’s clutter or eating or napping or drinking champagne or…
You get the picture. When your to-do list is as massive as mine, the transfer sucks.
I got a bunch popped over, but then decided to do it bit by bit over time.
Confession: I never transferred anything else.
So I had this awkward TickTick/Trello combo that worked OK…but not fabulously.
Two weeks ago – enter Evernote.
Holy cow I love that Webclipper!!! PERFECT for researching things. Such a game-changer as I’ve gathered all the necessary info to prepare my book “Fabulous Foothold to Organization” for Kindle, Smashwords (which distributes to all the major retailers) and now prepping for print.
I loved it so much that I started transferring everything over there to keep everything in one location.
After all, I’m all about efficiency and such.
But then…holy crap that became WAY too much visual noise for me.
Three different ways to manage my to-dos and projects and none of them working fabulously???
Time to blow it up and create a fresh start.
I ripped it all apart. Stripped lists, labels, and due dates. The works. Everything back into random little single notes. Then I went back through, thinking about 1) if this was something I really needed to do and 2) what would I think first when I needed to look for it. I then re-listed everything in TickTick based on this new system. Trello is out and I’ll continue to use Evernote but only in a research capacity.
*Cue huge sigh of satisfaction*
It took a long time to do – but the space it’s created in my head and ease with which I now know what to do and when is MORE than worth it. Pretty much par for the course with any organizing project: the process can suck and is certainly time-consuming but hot-damn if the after benefits don’t rock!
So how can you create your own fresh start?
When circumstances change slowly it’s easy to make tweaks and adjustments as you go. However, in times of rapid change you may find that it’s best to blow it up, break things completely apart, and then rebuild fresh.
What can you blow up and rebuild in a better, more fabulously organized way?
Need some assisting in the blowing up and reorganizing? I have plenty of ways to help. Contact me today to get started!
The past few Sundays, French Toast has become a morning ritual. I used to think French toast was this big, complicated thing so rarely made it at home. Then I discovered how easy it can be. This version is quick and easy while feeling luxurious. During the week I usually make smoothies for breakfast but on the weekend I like to take a little extra time to play in the kitchen and this is perfect for a lazy Sunday morning.
Or brunch, lunch, or afternoon…depending upon how much excess you indulged in Saturday night.
What is your favorite weekend breakfast?