Food Geek Friday: Nectarine and Spiced Rum Poptail

I’ve been completely remiss is providing you with boozed up frozen desserts this summer! To remedy that just in time for Labor Day weekend, have a poptail using one of my favorite summer fruits.

Disclaimer: 21yo and up, only.

Prior boozy popsicles can be found here and here.

Nectarine & Spiced Rum Poptail


Directions:Nectarine Popsicle wm

  1. Blend fruit and liquor until blended to desired texture.
  2. Pour into popsicle molds and place in freezer. (If you don’t have popsicle molds you can use dixie cups or shot glasses.)
  3. One hour later, add popsicle sticks. Replace back into freezer until frozen. (approximately 4-6 hours.)
  4. Remove from molds and enjoy your frozen cocktail! (If poptail doesn’t release immediately, run under warm water for a few seconds and try again.)

Variation – I added in some thin slices of nectarine before putting in the freezer the first time. This added a nice textural different while eating the popsicle.

Quick Tip: Be Kind to Yourself

via Creative Commons

via Creative Commons

It’s so easy to beat ourselves up, isn’t it Sunshines?

But here it is, darling.

No. Good. Can. Come. Of. It.



All too often I hear my clients say horrible things about themselves and the state their home has devolved into. This, of course, just comes from the overwhelm and frustration they’re feeling. Yet even when it’s said under the guise of a joke, it erodes at their energy, heart, and head no less.

We beat ourselves up and feel bad so then we don’t do anything about our home. Which makes us feel worse and beat ourselves up more. So then we continue to do nothing about our home. Which makes us feel bad. So we do even less. And beat ourselves up even more.

See the vicious cycle?

Instead of beating ourselves up over what’s happened in the past and gotten us to this current state of our home, chose to accept it and move forward. Next, chose reasons and motivations that are positive instead of fear driven. Or reframe current fear-based reasons into positive ones.


  • Fear-based: I should clean up the house so I don’t have the “oh shit” moment when someone unexpectedly comes by.
  • Positive reframe: I want to create a tidy and organized home so I can entertain friends and family in my home. Especially when it’s unexpected company.

Both of these examples are valid and common among my clients. However, the reframed one makes you feel better. It empowers you to take action. The fear-based tends to land my clients in a state of overwhelm paralysis which is the exact opposite of how we should feel when taking action in our homes.

Fear driven and negative motivation only lasts for so long. And it sure as hell doesn’t feel good along the way. Create positive reasons for why you want to let go of your clutter and organize your home. Then be kind to yourself throughout the process. It can be a slow one – especially if you have a lot of negative emotional juju to release. Being gentle on yourself will feel SOOOOOO much better through the process as well as help you make all of that hard work stick for the rest of your life!

She Owns It: Banishing “Make Do” or Why That Ugly Chair Has Got To Go.

Make Do isn't good enough, SunshineI currently hear a phrase swirling around too often. This phrase does nothing but keep people stuck in their clutter.

Make do.

You know:

  • This will make do until the right thing comes along.
  • This will just have to make do until I find the time to do it correctly.
  • This will make do because I can’t be bothered to deal with it.

Side note: “Make do” is not to be confused with “good enough.” Good enough is when it’s not perfect, but we still like it. Make do, on the other hand, is something we don’t like but force to work anyway.

The problem with make-do is that 1) we don’t like it thereby breaking the cardinal “need, use, and love” rule of organizing and 2) it occupies the space that could be taken by something we do like.

An example many of us can relate to is the “ugly chair.”

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Blogging Your Business with Fort Worth Writer’s Boot Camp

I’m super-excited to tell you about a blogging class I’m teaching this Saturday, August 9th at 1pm for the Fort Worth Writer’s Boot Camp. If thoughts of starting up a blog to market your business have been dancing in your head then Sunshine, here’s your chance to make it happen.

Details below:

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Blogging for Business

In this class, you’ll learn the ins and outs of blogging for your business with strong emphasis on using your blog as a marketing tool. We’ll discuss defining your target market and ideal client, the benefits of blogging, as well as finding your own unique voice and expressing that to your audience. Also included will be:

• Logistics – what style posts are most popular
• Editing calendar – creating a schedule for consistency
• Promoting posts
• Writing guest blogs for other sites
• How to keep the ideas flowing
• And much more.

This class is for anyone either interested in starting a blog for their business or bringing in more marketing knowledge and structure into their current business blog. Come prepared to take lots of notes and to think about what sets your business apart, who your target market is, and what ideas you want to share with the world. All levels welcome.

Registration is $65 (plus tax)

Join us! Click here to register.

When a Short-Term Hit is Better than a Long-Term Contract; or Why DirecTV can Kiss My Lily-White Tush

UnicornRedheaded rant alert…though you may have already gathered that from the title of this post.

I recently switched from DirecTV to AT&T U-Verse. Once my U-Verse was successfully up and running, it was time to make the dreaded cancel call. You know the drill – we ignore our current customers in lieu of bringing in new ones until the current customer leaves for greener pastures. Then it’s, “Oh please let me kiss your ass and feed you bon bons and give you discounts and blahblahblah”

Yeah…too little, too late, Princess.

I predict the fuss will be minimum since my original contract is expired.

Or so I thought.

When DirecTV was originally installed I received a shoddy DVR that froze and died in less than a year. Customer service was fabulous and said they would send me a new receiver. However, in a less fabulous move, they didn’t bother to tell me that my contract was extended 24 months from that new point. I’m now told I’ll be hit with a $100 early cancellation fee for leaving.


Yes, the “k” is on purpose.

This rep is insistent that she’s trying to save me the cancellation fee money while also offering me discounts and unicorns farting glitter rainbows. However, she is absolutely NOT saving me money and here’s why, Sunshines:

In the switch I’ll save $80 per month meaning I’ll recoup the cancellation fee in less than two months. MUCH better than being saddled with the added expense on a service I didn’t like for 5 months. In the end, I’m still saving money (as well as frustrated energy) by switching and taking the $100 hit.

Do you have a similar situation happening somewhere in your life? Is there something you’re hesitating on because you don’t want to pay a cancellation fee of sorts. Well Sunshine, it’s time to do the math and see if your money is better served taking a short-term hit for the long-term gain.

  • Add it up: what is the cancellation fee vs. the monthly fee for the remaining time left on the contract. If the cancellation fee is less, go for it. Perhaps the situation is like mine that the overall savings to switch is so great that you’ll easily get that money back very quickly.
  • When making the cancellation, stand firm. Their job is to keep you and take your money. Your job is to keep as much of your money is possible. If the person on the other end of the line was setting your money on fire, you wouldn’t stand for it right? So don’t let them convince you otherwise. This is why we crunch the numbers first. It’s easy to stand firm when armed with knowledge. (Side note: don’t be an asshole about it. At the end of the day, their job kinda sucks. There is NEVER any reason to yell. Just tell them you’ve done the numbers and nothing they say will sway you.)
  • Celebrate having taken a close examination of your numbers and whittled away things that were taking your money while not serving you. Just like with the physical clutter, there are often random monthly services that are taking up space in our budget. Clearing these away creates the space so that we can use that money for things that we will need, use and love!

Have you recently cut things out of the budget that you weren’t using, even if it came with a hefty cancellation fee or pushy salesperson? Tell us about it in the comments!

She Owns It: A Tale of Two Homes or How Design Affects Organizing

Round library with fireplace, bar, hidden and open storage. Photo via Brants Realtors.

Round library with fireplace, bar, hidden and open storage. Photo via Brants Realtors.

Gather around Sunshines as I tell you a tale of two homes.

Home A is spacious. On the outset everything seems like it will work in good order. Then you try to function in it. There’s barely any storage. The roof angle cuts off the tops of upstairs closets. There aren’t drawers where you’d conveniently need them for organizational efficiency (i.e. – having a drawer for silverware near where you would logically put plates so that meal prep is quick and efficient.) The walls aren’t long enough for proper furniture placement.

In short, the design of the home SUCKS. It will take a LOT of creative wrangling and releasing of things to make this home function “well enough.”

Home B is spacious as well. However, the rooms are small and aren’t traditionally shaped. At first glance it would seem that you’ll never be able to fit all of your things. Then you dig in. Everywhere you turn there’s more storage built into the walls. What looks like interesting wall panels turn out to be large cabinets with fully adjustable shelves. Or narrow drawers so that you’ll never lose anything at the bottom of a drawer again. Even the bathrooms work around the pesky under-the-sink storage issues by having bins that angle out, thus avoiding having to organize around plumbing.

In short, the home is so impeccably designed that you may never have to get rid of anything ever again.

Not that I recommend that, Sunshine. After all, you still can’t take it with you.

So why am I telling you about these two homes?

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She Owns It: You are Enough

donald-draper-mad-men-love-quote-300x300Today’s message is short and sweet, Sunshines.




Why am I telling you this?

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Featured: What’s Up Cindy B Show?

What's Up Cindy B ShowLast week I was honored to be one of the guests on the What’s Up Cindy B podcast! She’s a super-fun host and we talked about how to keep a tidy home while you’re busy, how to live with someone when you have different “clutter thresholds” and I may or may not have ratted myself out on past bad habits. After my interview is actor, singer, songwriter Blake McIver. Enjoy!

Click through to listen.

Get a Spotless, Organized “Insert Room Here”

Getting a Spotless Home.Prepare thyselves for a redheaded rant, Sunshines.

I recently saw an article titled, “Get a Spotless, Organized Laundry Room.”

This, my darlings, is bullsh… A FULL-BLOWN LIE.

Unless you move out of your house, or never actually live in it ever again, you will NEVER have a spotless, organized ANYTHING in your house for more than a few minutes – ESPECIALLY if you actually use it!!! (Though you may get a few hours if you’re lucky, leave the house, or never enter the room – but what’s the purpose in that??)

Have I just burst every perfectionist’s bubble? I sure do hope so!

Sunshine, perfectionism will get you NOWHERE. Or as it says in one of my favorite videos…

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Food Geek Friday: Creamy Broccoli Soup

This recipe comes to you from the now defunct Whole Living Magazine.

RIP Whole Living.

Can you tell this was my favorite magazine?

This soup recipe was part of their “2013 Action Plan” in the last issue published. I was really surprised and impressed with how good it was. You see, while I’m a HUGE fan of healthy eating and enjoy a green smoothie as much as the next gal, I’m not always *that* keen on green veg. And I’ve always had a bit of a love/hate relationship with the broccoli. I don’t mind it raw or lightly cooked, but the texture starts to gross me out when it gets too cooked. So it was with some hesitation that I tried this dish.

However, this soup also had avocado which is ALWAYS a win in my book, so how could it go wrong?

And it didn’t.

We’re closely inching out of hot soup weather but this soup is really nice and leaves you feeling full of energy afterwards, perfect for spring!

Creamy Broccoli Soup

Adapted from Whole Living

Creamy Broccoli Soup - Organizing with a Side of Fabulous BlogIngredients

  • 1 Tbsp fat of choice – butter, coconut oil, olive oil, etc.
  • 1 medium yellow onion, diced
  • 4 cloves garlic, minced
  • 1/4 tsp red pepper flakes
  • 4 cups vegetable broth (may substitute chicken)
  • 1 head broccoli, trimmed and chopped (6 cups)
  • 3 cups baby spinach
  • 1 avocado, chopped, plus more for garnish
  • Coarse salt and freshly ground black pepper to taste


  1. Heat oil in a medium pot over medium heat. Add onion and saute until almost translucent. Then add in garlic and red pepper flakes and continue to cook until fragrant, another couple of minutes.
  2. Add broth and bring to a boil. Add broccoli and cook, covered, until bright green and tender, about 2 minutes.
  3. Remove from heat and stir in salt and pepper. Stir in spinach and allow spinach to wilt.
  4. Add avocado and blend everything with an immersion blender until desired texture. (May also use blender or food processor. Make sure it doesn’t explode on you do to heat.)
  5. Adjust seasoning as necessary. May garnish with avocado and a drizzle of olive oil.